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Domestic abuse and child abuse have widespread social and emotional costs. Family violence affects all segments of the family. The impact of violence on childrens’ lives appears to be far more substantial than the impact on adults lives(Family, Pg. 1). In most cases of family violence the family has conformed to a pattern in which the line of family violence started generations ago. This pattern must be broken before more children growup and live in a family that resorts to violence. But there are also children who live in loving families who do not resort to violence and as these children mature they start resorting to violence to help solve and deal with their problems. Studies show that physical punishment could cause aggression in children, but other studies show that even abusive parental violence does not always lead to an increase in children’s aggression. Only by recognizing and addressing the multifactorial roots of violence in our society can we move closer to living in peace.
Violence within families often reflects behaviours learned by children from their parents. A theory is that violent behaviour is passed down from generation to generation through families (Cole & Flanagin, Pg. 2). The majority of Americans are subjected to corporal punishment at one point or another during their lifetime(Kandel, Pg. 4). Surveys suggested that almost all American parents used physical punishment at one point or another and the punishment was regared as an appropriate child rearing technique. Another survey also suggested that some psychologists belive physical punishment to be an effective and useful socialization tool(Kandel, Pg. 2). Aggression is commonly conceived as existing on a continuum, ranging from very severe parental aggression to much milder and normal parental aggression, such as use of corporal or physical punishment(Kandel, Pg. 1). A common concern is that parental use of physical punishment will lead to aggressive behaviour in children.
There are three types of relationships between parents and their children, the first is a positive,
linear one: some researchers have contended that any parental aggression may be positive and casually
related to the development of antisocial aggression, the second group suggested that lack of physical
punishment may contribute casually to the development of aggression and in the third group there was either
too little or too much physical punishment that may increase the probability of aggressive behaviour in
children(Kandel, Pg. 2). ” Children learn to be civilized by watching adults behave in civilized ways. But it
is not enough for us to demonstate behaviours that are merely socially acceptable. We must also demonstrate
how to be caring, compassionate, and kind to our own children,….